How To Ruin A Marriage In 5 Easy Steps

How To Ruin A Marriage In 5 Easy Steps
By Steve Felton


Obviously you don't want to ruin your marriage. The majority of your life is going to be lived out with your spouse so you don't want to try and grit your teeth to endure it through marriage either. No, most stable and healthy people want a happy marriage. The problem so often is trying to find out how to go about making a healthy marriage. My simple advice is to avoid these pitfalls of marriage.

Don't listen to your spouse. Keep thinking about what you are going to say and not hearing what your spouse is really saying. This is a sure way to ruin your marriage. Watch as the hostility and resentments build.

Stop With the Sweet Nothings. You remember the roses that you used to bring home. The little notes, poems, or other special little communications of love. A happy marriage consists of keeping the relationship special and not taking each other for granted.

Make the Children the Focal Point. Of course, I realize that children need to be taken care of, I have three of my own. But we cannot do this at the expense of ignoring our spouse's needs.We have to continue to nurture our relationship with our spouse if we want to stay happily married.

Avoid Intimacy. When either spouse focuses on what they need rather than the needs of the spouse things get thrown off balance and a marriage suffers. A woman needs to feel loved and secure and the emotional aspect ties into the rest. A man needs to feel respected and desired also. Of course we all share emotional and physical needs and when partners are focused on giving rather than getting it is amazing how good marriage can be.

Control Your Spouse This will ruin a marriage very slowly but surely. Over time a controlled partner will become resentful and usually act out in ways that seem unattached to the real source. If a person is controlled they will rebel in one form or another. We were not made to be controlled. A happily married couple trusts the other enough to give them the freedom to fail or make mistakes. The freedom to be who you are is an inalienable right we should all be allowed to posses in marriage. We should seek to bless not possess in marriage.

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posted by Robert Heard at 6:44 PM