The Best Marriage Advice Ever Received

The Best Marriage Advice Ever Received
Shared Wisdom
By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com


Marriage Quotes

Couples like you share their marriage wisdom. We asked readers to share the best marriage advice they ever received.
"... it was that I should love my husband, but not wrap myself up in my husband. That I should always remember that I was a person before him, and I should do my damndest to stay a person while married to him ... second best advice was to never completely tie your finances to your husband--always have something of your own." ~~ contributed by deblgus
"Don't fight over money because there is never enough to go around anyway." ~~ contributed by s91601
"Don't go to bed angry at each other." ~~ contributed by Ibn Tumart
"My dad told me 'try to outdo each other in kindness.' I thought that was good advice. That way you are concentrating on the positive." ~~ contributed by tjmac66
"The best advice in my opinion is to live in a different town than your families when you get married. My hubby is in the Air Force and lucky for both of us, we moved across the country! We both grew up in negative environments and the space is a blessing! Now we appreciate talking to our families and they are far enough away where they can't interfere and smother us with negativity. On another note, I believe the standard "don't go to bed angry" is right as rain as well!" ~~ contributed by GirlyGirl220
"For women: Do not expect your husband to change after marriage.
For men: Do not expect your wife to not change. : )" ~~ contributed by Data10000
"My mom always tells me when I fight with my husband that he could be worse than what he is and I should quit sweating the small stuff." ~~ contributed by quinnandellie
"From the time we were little kids, my dad told us "Never date anyone you wouldn't marry" .... when we were kids this made zero sense, but as I got older, it became clear that a lot of people marry people they don't much like/fit with well, for a variety of reasons. SHe ends up pregnant, it is just "time" to marry. The selection process of who to marry is complex, but makes a huge difference.
We also always advise newly marrieds to NOT sit and complain about anything in their marriage, large or small, in little same sex (or not) groups at work or at play. ALl it does is magnify any irritants, and if you really have a problem with your spouse, talking to them about it is much more likely to solve the problem than sitting and bitching with others." ~~ contributed by shopper113
"My dad told me to always communicate with each other. I think I have been more honest with my husband than anyone else in my life." ~~ contributed by fkh38
"A quote from the Bible: What God has yoked together, let no man tear apart." ~~ contributed by Donnamaria65
There are "... various ways in which relational maturity develops in people -- preparing them first to care for themselves, and then to care for two people, and afterwards for children too. All in a way that is life giving. Relational maturity is I believe the most effective predictor for whether a marriage is likely to last or not." ~~ contributed by Tastewise
"From my MIL: "Marriage is forever. You have to stick it out no matter how miserable you are." ~~ contributed by Michele
"Get on your knees together every night and say the Lord's prayer. Even if you don't go to sleep and may have something else to do. This assures that most nights you will spend some time together before you go to sleep. If you are apart, do it over the phone." ~~ contributed by Michele
"Never go to bed angry, even if you are not happy with the conditions." ~~ contributed by Michele

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