Mommy, Do You Remember All Four Times You Had Sex?

Mommy, Do You Remember All Four Times You Had Sex?

By Amy Tuteur, MD (View Profile)

Mothering is marked by transcendent moments. I’ve had those moments while nursing my infants, watching my children in school plays and sports, and looking on proudly as they crossed the stage for graduations. This, however, is not about those moments. This is about teaching children the facts of life.

As a gynecologist, I always vowed that I would not subject my children to agricultural theories of human reproduction. None of that “daddy plants a seed” stuff for us. I planned on anatomically correct, age appropriate, completely truthful answers to any questions about sex. Each of my children learned where babies come from as soon as they asked, and each child got some version of “the talk.”

There were occasional complications; one child received his “talk” in a car at highway speeds. He was so embarrassed by the entire issue of sex that he always ran away when I attempted to discuss it. Only by giving him no option of escape could I make sure he learned the basics.

I was also motivated by my experiences as a practicing gynecologist. I have seen firsthand the results of the mistruths, half truths, and outright lies that pass for “information” among teens. The staggering toll of this misinformation is measured in unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. Often teens lack basic information because no one ever bothered to tell them the truth about sex, about birth control, or about protecting themselves.

Whenever I talked about sex with my young children, I had the best of intentions. So why did I often end up answering completely unanticipated questions while struggling desperately not to laugh?

While cooking dinner one evening, I was approached by the youngest of my four children. She asked, “Mommy, do you remember all four times you had sex?” I tried to look thoughtful while biting the inside of my cheek in an effort to avoid laughing.

“Actually,” I said, “I’ve had sex more than four times.”

Her eyes widened. “Why would anyone do that?”

“Sex is not only for making a baby,” I explained. “Most of the time people have sex because they enjoy sex itself.”


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