How to Rebuild Your Marriage

How to Rebuild Your Marriage
By Devangini, eHow Member

Having a tough time with your spouse? Contemplating divorce? Well, there's no need to call it quits as yet. This step by step article will help you fix your marriage - for keeps!


Step
1
List your problems - one by one. These can be situations, or actual issues that have cropped up between the two of you. This will help you gain some perspective. Keep this list aside and look it again after a few days. Would you like to change how you have worded some of the issues; are you less agitated and more open to change now?

During this step, you may feel as if too much water has flown under the bridge and that there is no point in any of this. If you are still wondering what else you could have done for a happier marriage, it shows you still care.

Step
2
Categorise your problems. Are they family related, money related, social, career or others? This will help you understand the source of the problems.

Step
3
Now list the very same problems from his or her point of view. What do you think drove your spouse to a corner? This step will show you what you may be missing.

Step
4
Write a solution to each problem keeping in mind both perspectives. This can be a time taking exercise. The purpose of this step is to allow you the space and time to indulge in some problem sharing. If there is scope, you can discuss this with your spouse too - it will help him or her see how much you really care.

Step
5
Still feel like the other party is 'beyond caring'? Well, here's the thing - maybe the hurt is deeper than you can see. Start focusing on yourself - how can I change, how can I be happier? Take the focus off of changing your spouse's nature.

Once, your spouse sees the positive results of your actions, he or she will make an initiative too.

Step
6
Remember to keep the effort going from both ends. And throughout this process, it is important to appreciate each other's efforts and positive side - rather than the flaws. What you think, you attract - focus on the positive, and the negative will vanish!

Have a wonderful marriage!

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