Five Components for a Healthy Marriage

Five Components for a Healthy Marriage

By blue23ice




COMMUNICATION: expression of thoughts and feelings both verbal and nonverbal; being a good listener.

* be a good listener

* ask questions about the other person's like and dislike

* wait until the other person finishes his/her statement prior to speaking

* speak calmly even when angry or hurt, or take time out and plan a "date" to resume the discussion when you've both calmed down

* no name calling

COMMITMENT: stick to one's promise or agreement; loyal; reliable; faithful through good times and bad.

* keep one's promises even when one feels like doing something else

* help and finish household chores

* watch younger siblings

* be a responsible student, team member or club member

* be on time

* complete assignments

SELF-CONTROL: ability to control feelings; speak and act calmly even though you may be angered; doing what is expected even without individuals having to watch you.

* choose to obey rules

* speaks and act calmly when hurt or angry

* practice moderation in all things

* avoid alcohol, drugs, smoking and premarital sex

* do what is expected without being watched

* NEVER hit or strike someone when angry

COMPATIBILITY: capable of existing together in harmony

* have similar goals and dreams

* shared faith and values

* a genuine enjoyment of the other person--a good friend

* a desire to see the other person achieve his/her best in life

LOVE: a choice and daily decision; not based solely on feelings; to care for someone deeply even though one's feelings may not be reciprocated; unselfish love.

* want what is best for others

* daily commitment

* daily decision to love, even when you don't feel like it

* giving for the good of others

posted by Robert Heard at 11:09 AM