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How to have a happy, successful marriage
By TiffanyLove


Are you facing marriage problems? How to resolve marital issues between spouses and learn eachother and your differences. A Guide to a successful, happy marriage.

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Everyone argues, but there is a way to resolve those issues that continue to flare up no matter what. The difference between a couple with a solid relationship and one that is on a rocky road is how they deal with conflict. First off you have to look at yourself and what you are doing wrong. Often too many couples look at their spouses problems and try to fix them but they don't look at their own. You can spend your whole life trying to fix/change your spouse, telling them things they are doing wrong, how to fix them etc. But if you never deal with your own issues it will do no good. Just remember one thing. YOU can't change your spouce. Your spouse has to be willing to change on his own, and if you try to force him to change it will only cause more problems. Most if not all women are guilty of trying to change men, but in reality that is going about the situation in the wrong way. Here is some advice. You have to learn to compromise with your spouse and their ways. If you don't like something he does the only thing you can do is talk together and come up with a solution. But whatever you do don't waste your time stressing over all his bad qualities and trying to change him. Instead look at the positive side of things and enjoy what you do have.
Step
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People tend to get lost in the "problems" of marriage and lose sight of why they love their spouse. Sometimes you having a negative outlook on things can actually be the problem. For example maybe you don't like watching sports, but your husband loves them and wants to hang out with his friends and watch them. You can't try to keep him away from sports just because you don't like them. It is a part of him, just like the things you enjoy are a part of you. No, you don't have to sit there and watch them, but you can most certainly allow him to. Often people are attracted to one another for the things they have in common. Their differences cause conflict. The differences you have bring excitement, interest, and can serve as an introduction to new adventures and experiences for your partner. In other words, you would have a pretty boring relationship without them. Quit wearing the same kinds of clothes and trying to act like your partner. Instead, embrace and pursue your unique self and share that person with your spouse, and have him or her do the same. Embrace your differences.
Step
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Trust is a necessity to developing an everlasting bond. Building trust is simpler than you might think. Mean what you say and do what you promise. Don’t let yourself be dominated into making a promise you don’t intend to keep. In other words, if you know you never want to live in a certain state, don’t tell your spouse you’ll eventually move there. If you say you’re going to be at home by 10 p.m., be home by 10 p.m. It’s that simple. It is very important to keep truth in a relationship. With no truth or honesty there is no trust. Recognizing the natural flow of a relationship will serve you well. Some days you wake up passionately in love, and some days you wake up mad at the world. Realize your relationship is not doomed just because you have a negative attitude one day. It just means that you are human. But you have two choises in that situation, you can make the best of it or you can continue to stay in a bad mood. If it's nothing to be upset over then don't be upset. It's simple, and always try to speak kindly to your spouse and in a loving manner. Never speak in anger or hostility bacause the outcome is always MORE anger and hostility.

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