How to maintain a healthy marriage

How to maintain a healthy marriage
By meemee67




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Compromise. You can't have your way all the time. Compromise is key. Sometimes you have to not basically give in, but be a bit more flexible and pliable. if you are too rigid and act like a child, needing to have control in every circumstance, this will only cause friction and fighting and who wants that?
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Be communicative. Talk about your day, talk about the news, a funny event, a future trip. Keeping the lines of communication open is healthy. It keeps things flowing and exciting.
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Allow for alone time. Just because your spouse wants a night out with the girls or guys, doesn't mean they don't love you. Everybody needs their own time and space with their friends or even by themselves.
Before you were a wife and a husband, you were and still are you, an individual. let go and when they get back to you after a few hours out, they will appreciate you a lot more. They will feel happier and when they are happy with themselves, they are happier with you.
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Respect their views and choices. If you are irate with your spouse because she or he didn't do what you would have done in a certain situation, understand he isn't you, she is not you. Respect and the reasons why they need to handle situations their own way. You married this person because of who they are, don't try to make them into you.
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Keep the romance. It isn't that we forget how to be romantic. Some of us are more so than others. It's that we tend to take for granted the people we are close to, especially our spouses.
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Be considerate. Don't take for granted that if your working late, you can just walk in the door at 11 pm. call, let him or her know you won't make it for dinner. If you know they can't bring their laundry in the morning because they have an extra early mtg, suggest to do them the favor. if it's you who has the car and she's on empty, fill her up. It is the little things that mean a lot. Pick up that movie they have been wanting to watch but because they know you don't want to see it, they haven't. Surprise them with flowers, a gift certificate, a shirt you thought may be nice on him , a tasting to a wine and cheese, anything you feel he or she would like, why not do it>
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Share each other's interests. Okay so he's not into meditating and she isn't into football. So what? There are other things you can find to do to share. How about camping or a night out dancing. Take up a dance class or a cooking class together? White water rafting, horseback riding, perhaps you can come together towards the end of the night and watch an old episode of seifneld or honeymooners?

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posted by Robert Heard at 1:23 PM