How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage

How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage
By meemee67

How to Maintain a Healthy Marriage
Rate: (2 Ratings)
People get married for different reasons. Mostly, it is because two people love eachother, they want to share thier lives together and build on what they have already cultivated. In a marriage comes a lot of atributes that people tend to lack because they take thier spouses for granted. It doesn't have to be that way. Marriage is a wonderful and joyous union when it is between two people who love each other. To keep your marriage healthy and happy here are a few tips.

Things You’ll Need:
Compromise
Devotion
Trust
Honesty
Respect
Step
1
Compromise. You can't have your way all the time. Compromise is key. It is essential that you bring compromise into your relationships, especially marriage. Sometimes you have to not basically give in, but be a bit more flexible, less stubborn. If you are too rigid or you always accept to have it your way and only your way, that is one sided and eventually, it will ruin.
Needing to have control in every situation is a bit immature and not very reasonible.
Step
2
Be communicative. Talk about your day, the news, a funny event, a future trip. Keeping the lines of communication open is healthy. It keeps things flowing and exciting!
Step
3
Allow for alone time. Just because your spouse wants a night out with the girls or guys, doesn't mean they don't love you. Everybody needs their own time and space with their friends or even by themselves.
Before you were a wife and a husband, you were and still are you, an individual. So make a plan with freinds once a week, have them do the same.
Step
4
Respect their views and choices. Not everyone thinks the same or would behave in the same manner as you, this is why you are different. Do you want to be with someone who was exactly as you are? Someone who agreed with everything you did and thought? Remember why you fell in love with this person. Don't try to mold them into you. DO not take it personaly if they disagree, people do that, that's life and it is human nature. If someone does not agree with you, it's ok , don't look at is as an attack.
Step
5
Keep the romance. As we get comfortable and more secure in our relationships, we may take things for granted. Even if your not the most romantic person, try little things like flowers or tickets to a game or ballet or a nice walk at night by the water. It's simple things in life that matter most. Maybe a love note on the frig in the morning before you leave for work? getting caught up with chores and kids and your career, that's fine but you need to focus on eachother also so your marriage does not become stale and stagnant.
Step
6
Be considerate. Don't take for granted that if your working late, you can just walk in the door at 11 pm. call, let him or her know you won't make it for dinner. If you know they can't bring their laundry in the morning because they have an extra early meeting, suggest to do them the favor. If it's you who has the car and she's on empty, fill her up. It is the little things that mean a lot. Pick up that movie they have been wanting to watch but because they know you don't want to see it, they haven't. Surprise them with flowers, a gift certificate, a shirt you thought may be nice on him , a tasting to a wine and cheese, anything you feel he or she would like, why not do it>
Step
7
Patience is not easy. yet it is terribly nessasary and it is not innate, you have to learn it and work at it. There are times in life where we need to realize and accept that our lvoed ones are not always going to do as we wish or agree with us. They will from time to time get us angry or frustrated. We have to reign ourselves in in order not to lose it. It's not easy living with one person for all of your life, it takes some adjusting-so be patient with them and yourself as well.
Step
8
Don't take things too seriously. Laughter is good for the soul. There is too much emphasis on serious issues in life, forget about marriage but, you need to be willing to laugh at yourself and eachother time to time. It not only feels good it is good for you!
Step
9
Share each other's interests. Okay so they are not into yoga or football, so what?

There are many things you can try together, tennis, hiking, camping, canoeing. Sharing hobbies and trying different things keeps things fresh and exciting. It just makes you feel happy and brings joy to the marriage.
Step
10
Be honest. If you fear that your spouse will not understand your feelings and think sweeping things under the rug is the answer and lying about it saying nothing is wrong, your wrong. It is always best to be honest about how you feel and anything for that matter. I am not saying each of you need to know every single idiosyncrasy of each other's day but, if it bares on the marriage, you need to be forthright.

Labels: healthy marriage

posted by Robert Heard at 11:17 AM