Healthy Habits that Contribute to Happy Marriages

Healthy Habits that Contribute to Happy Marriages

When you see people in happy marriages and relationships, it's hard not to wonder what their secret is. Every couple has its own chemistry and protocol, but chances are they have made a concerted effort to make their relationship work well. Anything worth having requires hard work—and marriages are no exception. However, if couples begin to implement some healthy habits throughout the course of their relationship, chances are it will seem less like work and more like the best choice they ever made.

Here are some healthy habits that contribute to happy marriages:

Don't Misdirect Your Feelings
After spending your entire day at work or doing things with others, it can be quite easy to get in the habit of unloading on your spouse when you get home. Many people spend their days at work thinking about home, and vice-versa. It's important to remember that while your spouse is there to support you, they shouldn't be your emotional punching bag. If someone at work is getting to you, address the problem with them and don't take it out on your spouse. Don't hurt the ones you love; address the source of the problem.

Spend Time with Others

The idea of spending all of your time together is a huge obligation that many married couples can't fulfill. Don't get stuck on this idea; it is important to have other people in your life to talk to and spend time with. No one should ever have to carry the burden of sole friend and emotional cheerleader. Parcel off your feelings and concerns to various friends and family members—it will leave more time for the two of you to share your love and time together in a positive manner.

Share Quality Time
Another habit that many couples fall into is the day-to-day routine. While it's not possible to do something new and exciting all of the time, you can still spend some quality time with one another each day. Turn the television off, take a walk, or just enjoy each other's company in silence with a cup of tea. Every relationship is different, so do what feels right for you and your spouse.

Designate Time for Business Matters

Many people going through divorces cite financial problems as one of the main contributing factors to their marriage's demise. If you are experiencing tough financial times, there is a time and place to discuss these things. Instead of talking about problems and money—or any other business, for that matter—all of the time, designate time to discuss these issues.
You don't have to rehash things constantly for them to be real. Bringing it up all the time will only cause more distress. Sit down and discuss budgeting, spending limits, and any other matters of importance at a designated time. Once you have covered what needs to be done, you are free to get on with your lives together. This is a simple way to make sure that money and financial issues aren't the beginning of the end of your marriage.

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This post was contributed by Holly McCarthy, who writes on the subject of dating sites. She invites your feedback at hollymccarthy12 at gmail dot com

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