Find Out How To Fix Your Marriage

Find Out How To Fix Your Marriage
By Chad Briggs


Is your marriage falling apart? Are you starting to fall out of love with your partner? There are some things we need to just stop hiding from and face in relationships. Everyone has their dreams of marriage. Most dream of the nice house with a white picket fence. Sometimes that dream turns into a nightmare. Marriages fall apart for so many different reasons.

Their is a difference between staying together and making it work. Staying together usually is done just for the kids. A lot of times it is worse on the kids and you. For example I know a couple that was doing that. They stayed together for the kids. They slept in different rooms and it made both of them miserable. When they did talk they would fight. Tell me when you were a kid would you rather see your parents separated and happy or together and miserable? Making it work is different. That is when a couple realize there is a problem and love each other enough to work through it. Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn't. The main reason it doesn't is because people use the wrong methods. If your partner needs some time alone let them have it. Pick up a hobby. Just remember there is always hope.

Some of the reasons marriages fall apart are because of unresolved conflicts, affairs, sexual problems or lack of, constant fighting, communication problems, not enough time together, controlling partner, children, trial separations, and financial problems. Unresolved conflicts just lead to more problems and fighting. Learn to work through your problems by compromise. Affairs can be a finisher to any relationship. There are plenty of couples that work through them. One way is finding out why the affair happened and fixing the problem. Sometimes there is now way to fix it but most of the time there is. Sexual problems can lead to a lot larger problems. They are usually what leads to affairs. A lot of time it is lack of intimacy. If you and your partner are not being intimate there is bound to be sexual boredom.

Thats when people start looking around to see what else there is. Most of the time lack of intimacy is because of busy schedules. When you have full-time jobs and kids time can be hard to come by. Nobody likes fighting with their significant other. The reason you are so picky when finding someone you want to settle down with is because you don't want to have fights. A lot of times you can work through them. Find out what is causing these problems and try to figure out how to work through it. Nobody likes not having open communication with their partner. The key to fixing that problem is finding out how your partner communicates and communicating with them on that level. When you and your partner are not spending a lot of time together it gets frustrating. When you both work different shifts and have kids it can be draining.

One of the ways to work through is to try and find a job that has a similar schedule to your significant other. If you can not do that try and work out a schedule together that will allow you to manage your time better. That way you can get some more time together. Controlling partners are the worse type. Nobody likes being told. Controlling partners are the hardest to work through. They require a lot of time and effort. You need to first make your partner aware of their behavior. Financial problems can make life very stressful. Money is not everything but you need it to survive. With the price of gas and everything else going up it is beginning to get harder for the lower and middle class to make a living. The highest percent of divorces are from the lower and middle class.

Many people try to save their marriages but are unsuccessful. The 2 biggest mistakes are begging for another chance and trying to hard. Don't show your partner desperation that will only push them further away.

I know first hand. I was in a very serious relationship when I was younger. Until this day she was the only girl I can honestly say I loved. I lost her because I was stubborn and wouldn't make compromises to work through problems. I would just do what I want. She told me she did not want any more dogs so I just bought 2 Rottweilers and brought them home. At the end I tried to save the relationship by begging for another chance. It has been almost 3 years now. Now that I finally found the right techniques to getting her back I can't. We did not talk since a month after we broke up. She has since moved out of state with her sister and I have no way to get in touch with either one of them.

Do not make the same mistake I made. Click to my blog to find out more scenarios of how relationships failed with the stories of real couples. Click on the bottom of my blog to find out from a real expert how to fix your marriage.

Written by Chad

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