Sexual abuse - don't hide it

Jaz
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Have you or someone you know been a victim of sexual abuse as a child? How has it affected you as an adult?
I am 15 yrs. old and my dad raped me twice when I was 12 and once when I was 14. I'm dealing with it exceptionally well, so says my therapist and I'm doing an editorial on the affects of sexual child abuse and since I'm not an adult yet I'd like to know about some adults who were abused as children. Thank you.


Ash
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I was sexually abused by 3 different cousins from the ages of 4 thru 12. My parents found out about the cousin that was abusing me when I was younger, but he started it again once I was a little older, about 8 or so. I never said anything when the abuse started again, because I didn't think they would believe me, and I felt guilty for letting it happen. He told another cousin what he was doing, so he started abusing me too, as payment for his silence. The third cousin was female, and that abuse finally stopped when I was about 10 or so. For a long time, I felt so guilty and I let the depression get so bad, that I became a teenage alcoholic and I got hooked on drugs. I put myself in situations where I was venerable to sexual abuse all the time. Finally I realized that I was throwing my life away. I cleaned up my act, I gave my heart to God, and I live each day for Him. I am married, with a beautiful little girl and a great job. Sexual abuse only effects your future as much as you let it. It's not our fault that it happens to us, but, we have to seek help as soon as possible so we can mentally recover. But it sounds like you are doing great. Just stay on the right track.



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I have been sexually abused growing up.
I have had lifelong depression.
I am not in any kind of close relationship and never have been. I have PTSD.
Getting physically close to another person causes anxiety.
I am very lonely.
I am glad you are getting help while you are still young.
I have high hopes for you. Good Luck.
1 year ago



i have a couple of friends who have been abused as well. one is a basketcase. the other is such a well rounded woman you would never know she ever had sadness in her life.

we all things in our life that arent good. its how you decide to move on from there that matters.


Kathryn R
I was sexually abused when I was 9 and than again when I was in my teens. Yes, it's affected my whole life and the way that I look at men out side of my family. I was first diagnosed with depression shortly after that and I've been dealing with it ever since.


Introfee...
I know three people who were sexually abused. Two are suicidal and clinically depressed even though they are adults now. They also have some very esquisit rage. The other one seems normal. All 3 are gay.


junkiemo...
I'm 20 now, abused when I was 6-8. I've never recovered from it and my family (it wasn't a relative who did it) just ignore that whole area of my life because it's shameful to them. I've never talked to anyone about it but I think if something was done at the time to help like counseling, I wouldn't be so screwed up now. My family didn't believe in therapists or anything like that and now i'm an adult, it just seems too late to fix.
I've never had a girlfriend/relationship and I don't have any friends in general as I find it impossible to trust anyone enough to get close.


Sooka
I was abused when I was 5. I think it affected my sexuality as I was going through puberty and becoming a young woman.. sort of gave me the wrong idea about sex and what it all means. I had to grow up and become involved in an emotionally difficult relationship to really be able to see the big picture.

I am now 26 and I have an aggression problem. I also have a bipolar/anxiety thing but I don't attribute that to my past, although I could probably find a link. All of my friends are guys. I do not get along with most females. There are things that remind me of details from those times, certain types of furniture, magazines, etc, but I do my best to not get wrapped up in it. I would kill the man who did it if I could without penalty. Luckily for him, he's already serving a life sentence for murder.


Kel
i was raped for 2 years starting when i was 7. it was a very close male family member.
Now i do not trust men. i think they are all the same and that they cannot be trusted. i dont get emotionally attached. Whenever i am in an intimate situation it is very hard because i remember what happend when i was younger. my parents never found out what happend and it took me 9 years to tell evern my closest friend. i have never spoken to a therapist. every day i wonder when this will stop haunting me

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