SOLVING CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS

SOLVING CONFLICT IN RELATIONSHIPS

4 BASIC PRINCIPLES FOR CONFLICT SOLUTION IN A MATURE, CONSCIOUS, AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP

1 . Take Full Responsibility
When you are done thinking about what your partner/friend has done to you, please try and look for your contribution to the situation. You will always find it if you truly look.

2. Get in Touch with Your Feelings, State Your Feelings, and Know You Are Entitled to Feel Your Feelings
Ask yourself how you feel and tell your partner/friend. Hiding or keeping your feelings to yourself builds resentment. Tell your partner/friend what their actions made you feel. It is not a good idea to try and guess their motivation, or to tell them what they should or not do! If you open your heart and state your feelings, it will make your partner/friend conscious and aware of their actions and impact on you. Good chance they will treat you better next time.

3. Accept and Love Yourself
When you find you made a mistake, and you feel bad about yourself, PLEASE REMEMBER TO:

Love yourself for being aware and for recognizing your mistakes.
Embrace who you are, and give yourself a lot of time and patience. It took so many years to become who you are, it will take more than a realization to change acquired habits and patterns of behavior.
Ask your partner/friend to accept and embrace who you are, and give you lots of time, patience and love.
4. Develop and Maintain Your Sense of Humor
Don't take things too seriously and or personally. It takes the fun out of life. Laugh at yourself and bring lightness to the heart.

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posted by Robert Heard at 8:22 AM