TIPS FOR HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

TIPS FOR HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one. The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.

Enter the Marriage With the Right Intention and Renew this Often
Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations
Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse
Be Your Mate's Best Friend
Spend Quality Time Together
Express Feelings Often
Admit to Mistakes and Ask for Forgiveness
Never Bring Up Mistakes of the Past
Surprise Each Other at Times
Have a Sense of Humor
Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.
Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.
Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses become upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.
If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.

Ten ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one. The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.

Enter the Marriage With the Right Intention and Renew this Often
Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations
Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse
Be Your Mate's Best Friend
Spend Quality Time Together
Express Feelings Often
Admit to Mistakes and Ask for Forgiveness
Never Bring Up Mistakes of the Past
Surprise Each Other at Times
Have a Sense of Humor
Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements

Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution.
Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking.
Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses become upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm and collected.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate.
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.
If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself; this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.

posted by Robert Heard at 9:49 AM