The Marriage(partner) Relationships

The Marriage (Partner) Relationship

Perhaps one of the most complex challenges for mankind is the
interpersonal relationship. As we move through our lives, especially
adult lives, we encounter many different kinds of relationships. Here,
at ACT Professional Counseling, also known as ACT Professional
Marriage Counseling, we see marriage (partner) relationships as being
vital and work hard to see them succeed. As we see break up rates and
divorce rates soar, we need to understand the various components of a
successful relationship in order for this not to happen to our
relationships. This is ACT Professional
Counseling's recipe for a successful marriage (partner) relationship.

As we view marriage (partner) relationships using the
analogy of a pyramid, we have several important building
blocks. These start at the bottom of the pyramid.

Communication - active and effective listening
Friendship
Having things in common
Having a healthy self-esteem
Trust in each other
Respect for each other
Intimacy
Love and Sex


What happens if one of the blocks is pulled out from the bottom of the
pyramid? Of course, it falls down and needs to be rebuilt. We need to
examine each of the blocks to determine their workability and to
clearly understand their definition, such as, most consider intimacy
to have a sexual connotation. However, intimacy is having the ability
with your partner to exchange emotions and understand one another and
to feel comfortable discussing personal and private events with your
partner.

When all of these blocks are in line, we feel love and most likely
experience sex in a very positive way. Also, communication is critical
in a relationship. For example, the sexual component may not be
working as well as you would wish and it is important to feel at ease
in discussing this with your partner. How can both of you resolve the
issue at hand unless you are able to communicate with each other. In
conclusion, the final and certainly the most rewarding and vital
ingredient in a relationship, is love. If you have experienced love
from another person and have loved someone else, it is magical and
words can never describe the overwhelming feelings and ecstasy that
extends to our very soul.


Robert Heard,MA , BCETS

posted by Robert Heard at 9:37 AM