A List of Do's and Don'ts for Any Woman Trying to Save Her Marriage

A List of Do's and Don'ts for Any Woman Trying to Save Her Marriage

You discover that your husband is "interested" in another woman. Is there any possibility of your marriage continuing? Absolutely.

Don't blame yourself or let others blame you for choices that your husband is making.

Recognize that you can't change your husband. So don't try to reform him. Don't nag or scream. (That's not going to make you any more attractive to him. He will just use it to point the blame to you.)

There can be no growth in your relationship as long as there is doubt as to your marriage. Make your commitment!

Live one day at a time.

Don't be bitter against anyone in the situation. Bitterness is something that destroys you; it does not destroy the person you are bitter towards. Never turn your children against their father. Forgive!

Don't ask family or friends to take sides against your spouse.

Discuss your intimate marriage problems with only a very select few. Don't give fuel to gossip.

Strength and food for each day.

Spend your time with people who will encourage you in spiritual growth.

Do not overcompensate with your children. They need your love and stability while their father is gone, but they still need discipline. Don't make them your confidants and friends. Be their parent.

Remember that the most innocent thing you say will get twisted. Avoid loose talk and do not listen to tale bearing.

If your husband left for another woman and then returns, don't expect your husband to change overnight.

The hardest time may be when you are reconciled and you have a tendency to fall back into old habit patterns. Don't do it!

Labels: marriage conflict

posted by Robert Heard at 8:38 AM